Herbert James Baker obituary

Herbert James Baker Obituary

San Diego, California, United States

March 08, 1983 - October 21, 2024

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Herbert James Baker obituary

Herbert James Baker Obituary

Mar 08, 1983 - Oct 21, 2024

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~ Forever Alive in Spirit ~

It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Herbert Baker, a beloved member of the San Diego community. Herbert, 41, passed away on October 21, 2024, leaving behind a legacy of kindness and compassion. Born on March 8, 1983, he was known for his infectious smile and warm personality. He was a dedicated friend and an integral part of his community, always willing to lend a helping hand to those in need. Herbert will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him. May he rest in peace.

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Memorial Details:
2 pm - 5 pm
November 24, 2024
Sunset Cliffs Natural Park @ Ladera Street, Ladera St & Sunset Cliffs Blvd, San Diego, CA
Details: Come join us to pay respects, honor and celebrate the special life and legacy of Herbert James Baker aka Whitey. The service begins at 3pm and will be led by Pastor Jim Hill from Clairemont Christian Fellowship. A Celebration of Life Bonfire will take place at the fire pits just south of lifeguard Tower 5 at Dog Beach from 6pm - 8 pm. Everybody is invited.
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Alicia Valdes
Alicia Valdes
Mar 08, 2025

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU MY BELOVED LITTLE BROTHER HJ. THINK ABOUT YOU EVERY DAY AND ALWAYS WILL UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN. YOUR BRIGHT BRILLIANT LOVING SPIRIT IS SO ALIVE ALL AROUND ME, THANK YOU FOR NEVER LEAVING ME. I LOVE YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS AND KEEP YOU PRECIOSO. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! CHEERS XOXOXO LOVE YOUR SISSY ~SD BARBIE~

Kasey Marquet
Kasey Marquet
Jan 25, 2025

I'm thinking of you right now...I am always.. I wonder if you're listening, if you see me in between everything, when I break down in my room and cry. I think about all the time we never had together, and about the time we did, and I think about your eyes and your innocent, soft smile as you'd look at me, adoring me, and loving me for all that I am. I keep thinking you are going to show up one day..or that my phone will ring, and it will be your voice on the other end, telling me that you’re okay, and that you'd be coming home to me. I think of all the ways I never showed you how much, and how deeply I really love you, and I wish I had another chance to give myself to you, in all the ways I know you wanted, and in a way where you would never question how badly I wanted you . I’ve thought about seeking you out, somewhere when I dream at night, about grabbing on to you and not letting go. I need to feel you here with me, if only I knew that magick could change everything that’s happened, I’d bring your astral body home, I’d break all the rules, if only I could only have you here with me again.

Michael  Hernandez
Michael Hernandez
Jan 25, 2025

Whitey I loved like a brother and you were one of the most important people ever in my life what you brought in to my life has changed me far beyond measure you showed me the soul I am forever in your debt. We had such a great plans and we were gonna write together and teach together and now I am clueless as were to begin now. I don't know how this has happened and a part of me died with you man. I plan on writing the book we talked about and I will donate the proceeds to the boy and Kasey if I can ever find her ok I promise. I love you bro. If anyone reads this and can please help me find whiteys family call or text me 720 787 8598 I have much to tell them

Jen
Jen
Dec 18, 2024

Jen Hartman sends their condolences.

Alicia Valdes
Alicia Valdes
Dec 10, 2024

Hi Whitey. I hope u were able to join us in spirit at your memorial service. We had a good time at the bonfire I hope you got some of the lit up balloons or Chinese lanterns that we sent off to you in the sky. With all sincerity I'm in awe of what a extraordinary One of a kind individual you were. It moves me to know that you had a heart of a teacher. I've heard from many people how they look to you for wisdom or advice compassion or hope insight everything the list goes on and on you even taught people how to read and write in jail you were a giver not a taker and you were brilliant beyond measure. As much as I know without a doubt that you are in good hands you're back with our Heavenly Father how could you not be with the heart and soul like yours? You far exceeded the norm of anything you were absolutely handsome as ever charming funny daring capable desirable you were the head HJ and not the tail. I will say this much that it is a daily struggle to try to carry on in your absence while witnessing some scandalous behavior from some pretty morbid people. Never in my wildest dreams but I have ever thought that some of the things that I have witnessed going on now in your absence could ever or whatever actually manifest anywhere near either of our lives so it's been difficult on several levels for me personally. I have a large collection of your poems and letters that I put in an album that I would love nothing more than to publish them and share them with everybody because they are astounding and full of you and full of you. You're the type of person that when you speak you speak directly into people's innermost parts of their heart and soul and you do so ever so gently and honestly. There's a poem that I think of every day that reminds me of your loving kindness for me and for humanity it's called AVENGE NOT I will post this poem as it is just 1 of many many and I am blessed that I have them now and forever and remembrance of you and your greatness I love you James I can't thank you enough for the role model that you've been to me and still are. Rest in peace my sweetest hearts forever and always your sissy xo

Alicia Valdes
Alicia Valdes
Dec 10, 2024

Alicia planted a grove of 3 trees for Herbert.

Alicia Valdes
Alicia Valdes
Nov 29, 2024

Dearest little brother it's your big sister Barbie. Since you were a little boy, I took care of you, played with you, read you So many bedtime stories , your favorites were Mr pines purple house and Harry the dirty dog LOL I remember feeding you in your high chair and having so many other privileges that a mother gets to do with her child but I was blessed learning these things with you because as your big sister. You were the cutest little boy ever! Absolutely darling. You were always very present doing whatever you were doing or just simply being there. The majority of the time you were always paying attention and sharing your thoughts, ideas n reactions. you were good company to be in. one of my best memories is when you were wearing your Cub scout uniform from head to toe and you were bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and you were ready to take me for an adventurous hike in the canyon and you led the way like our fearless leader and you chatted with me the whole time and I'll never forget that. you were quite the young man. we used to say that you were an old soul because of how wise you were and in tune with everything and through it all sweetheart you've always had a heart of gold. Always a very sweet spirit, friendly, happy, caring, helpful, trusting, sensitive n devoted. God as my witness, I have been your lifelong biggest fan, hands down. you won my heart unconditionally. no matter what, I was on your team always and guess what I still am and guess what else I know that life is in the spirit. the spirit can live without the body but the body can't live without the spirit. We r all spiritual beings with that being said in no way shape or form are you dead or gone and I find comfort in that very much so and I have gratitude for that truth. sometimes life teaches us, pardon my French, ass backwards and in my opinion our concept of life and death is surely ass backwards so yes it hurts to imagine what happened to you because we don't know. To Imagine your lifeless body floating a mile and a half out at Sea all by itself past the continental shelf drop off six times the length of the OB Pier out there all by yourself rocks me to the core and take my breath away but I reach back inside my heart inside my soul for the truth and the truth is you're free you're happy and you're safe. you're back at home with your heavenly Father. back home where you came from and your body's back to the Earth where it came from. so sweetie Thank You for so many priceless memories-and the many experiences we shared together I was always so proud of you that you were my little brother. I'll see you back at home sweetie I hope you're waiting for me when I get there. I know you will be. I'm sorry you're stay here was cut short I will keep holding on to the truth as I believe it to be, until we meet again sweetheart my heart beats for you. you will never be gone and you will never be forgotten. you are the most unique person that I have ever met in my life or maybe in the top three LOL but may you be secure, in peace, at home again. I love you Herbert James,HJ. I trust in the Lord and his decisions and his timing and believe that his plans for us are far better than our own imagination so Rock On little brother! you're not gone. you're not done yet! Thank you for all the good advice you've given me, all the compassion, all the understanding, all the attention. I'm so Deeply Sorry that I couldn't Save You! I don't know what else to say. I'm so sorry, I wish I could have saved you sweetheart!! I don't know how this happened. I'm sorry. I love you and I miss you. I'll see you back at home baby. God bless you always! In Jesus name, amen and amen. Hallelujah Lord! Thank you for my little brother! Please receive him, restore him meet him where he's at Lord ❤️ have mercy on his soul. we thank you Lord, for his life that was shared with us. God you are good, all the time. I trust you Lord and you, your word, your promises and your love, I am confident. Hallelujah and Amen. XOXO

Kasey Marquet
Kasey Marquet
Nov 29, 2024

This can't be real :'( You can't be gone :'( I keep hoping I'm going to wake up...we didn't have any time :( I'm going to bwrite to you every day until I'm with you again someday..:'( I feel you with me sometimes still, you were it for me; I'll carry you with me forever and I'll never forget your smile or the way you made me "your Sprite". I love you HJ Baker...

Shana McMahon
Shana McMahon
Nov 29, 2024

I didn't know you very well and it was a long time ago. I met you when you reunited with your sister and you stayed with me for a short period. Your sister was so excited and I'm so glad I got to be part of that. You will be missed by your family and friends and my heart hurts for their sorrow. Please, Lord, bless us all. Rest in peace, James.

Qarlie
Qarlie
Nov 26, 2024

Qarlie Ferris sends their condolences.

Shana McMahon
Shana McMahon
Nov 23, 2024

Shana McMahon sends their condolences.

Kasey Marquet
Kasey Marquet
Nov 17, 2024

I'll love you forever

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Amy Taylor
Amy Taylor
Nov 14, 2024

Amy Taylor sends their condolences.

Bee Free
Bee Free
Nov 10, 2024

Bee Free sends their condolences.

Bee Free
Bee Free
Nov 10, 2024

Romans 8:38-39 ESV, Romans 14:8 ESV Psalm 73:26, Revelation 21:4 ESV He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

Shawna Root
Shawna Root
Nov 09, 2024

Tho I didnt know you very long ..i am so happy that i did get to meet you.i cant believe your already gone.rest in peace ..you will not be forgotten ShawnaRoot

Alicia Valdes
Alicia Valdes
Nov 08, 2024

Alicia planted a tree for Herbert.

Amanda  Sanders
Amanda Sanders
Nov 08, 2024

Wow, I'm so sad that you are not here on this earth. I will always remember all the crazy things we did together. Until we meet again my friend, RIP. Amanda

Amy Taylor
Amy Taylor
Nov 08, 2024

You will be missed my friend I loved you in life and I always will -Amy

Kasey Marquet
Kasey Marquet
Nov 07, 2024

I love you 😥

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